Yep, that’s right, the so-called “Cadillac of Vibrators” can

A Newcomers Guide to Masturbating with a Vibrator

The Dame Fin has three different vibration speeds, with the highest speed being super powerful. I was actually shocked by how rumbly it was — it stimulated just as well as some of my larger vibes. And it’s slim enough that you can slip it between you and your partner during sex. This G-spot stimulator is similar to the tapping vibrator above that tapes on the G-spot once inserted, only instead of a bunny shape it features a beautiful butterfly on a mission to deliver pure pleasure to the clitoris. It has four flapping and nine vibrating modes that work in tandem and a beautiful rose-shaped base. Made famous by Sex and The City over 25 years ago, The Rabbit vibrator is known for its ability to stimulate the clitoris with impeccable precision.

And, lest you think that these vibrators are lack-luster compared to the kind you’d buy in a sex toy store, keep in mind that you’ll often find the Hitachi Magic Wand amongst the selections. Yep vibrators, that’s right, the so-called “Cadillac of Vibrators” can be found in the same aisles as neck pillows and Epsom salts. Of course, part of the reason it’s compared to a Cadillac is its size, so if discreetness is a major concern for you, you might want to skip the Hitachi in favor of its smaller counterparts. The Magic Wand is durable and reliable, with multiple settings that’ll achieve the sought-after orgasm it’s known for.

They can be used externally on the penis , vulva, clitoris, and anus, or can be used internally in the anus or vagina. Continued stimulation can create feelings of sexual pleasure and may eventually lead to orgasm. “The softness of the material is a welcome reprieve from harder sex toys,” one SELF tester says. “I like to really press my vibrators against my vulva when I use them, and I can do that with the Pebble without pain.” This quiet toy can also be used on nipples, penises, and the nerve-dense region between your bits and butt. These vibes are more travel-friendly and discreet than most other sex toys—they’re small enough to slip into a clutch, a pocket, or, hell, even wear as jewelry.

Other models are ribbed along the shaft, which allows the raised ridges to massage your internal sweet spots, while some come in the form of a fully insertable egg to stimulate the area. Maybe you’re already well-acquainted with the regular Magic Wand and don’t want to go anywhere without it. Or, maybe you want to test the Magic Wand out before committing to its full price tag. Either way, Dr. Torrisi recommends the travel-friendly Micro version to one and all.

If you live in a place with a removable shower head, it’s a great option for a discreet vibrator. Many people find the sensation of the pressurized water on their genitals pleasurable, and being in the bath or shower means you’re already in a space where you’re unlikely to be interrupted. If you don’t have a moveable shower head, but do have a bathtub, you can try lying on your back and tilting your hips into the stream from the faucet. Here’s yet another option, one that you can find at drug stores or big box stores (places like Target). They are generally made of plastic, made to plug in to an outlet, and are for external use only.